Can a bad mood be an addiction?

Because it gives one a sense of entitlement. If nothing else, we are entitled to being angry and depressed, considering the situation we are in…and we revel in the feeling that WE are the wronged party, because it makes us seem innocent, and worthy of sympathy, or empathy, or whatever.

Because often when we are in a bad mood, we are unable to connect with people. So it’s like, even if others don’t understand what and why, we feel better just knowing that our bad mood is justified. And by going over the reasons in our mind, we reiterate what we know: that we are right. The fact that we’re right makes us feel better in some part of our consciousness. Could a bad mood be nature’s way of soothing worries that might otherwise lead to depression and/or violence towards oneself or others?

Or could it be our way of prolonging the problem by trying repeatedly, and unsuccessfully, to prove that we have been wronged? Could we do something to change the situation instead of sulking and complaining that life’s served us the bad deal?

Here’s another thought: complaining could be an excuse not to confront the real problem/ the real person you disagree with. What do we say to ourselves when we complain? We give ourselves reasons. Reasons why we are right and the situation/ the other person / fate has done us wrong. We keep asserting to ourselves that we are rational. Right to think what we do.

Could we turn this around, and say this to somebody who might help us change the situation? Or to the person who we think is responsible for the problem? Unless we do this, we have no way of knowing whether or not our reasons hold water, so to speak. From a truly honest perspective, if we strongly believe we are right, maybe we should test out that hypothesis. Disinclination to do so might suggest that we aren’t all that sure of our reasons in the first place, so we dare not voice them to the person concerned and have ourselves proved wrong.

Interesting thought. Also an interesting way to test your own courage. If I look at life as a series of challenges that help me develop as a person, it might make sense for me to fight the desire to hole up and complain, instead of addressing the problem…

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