Why sometimes, optimism is a bad idea

Optimism is a state of perception in which negative things are seen as less so. While this might be an effective way of accepting things we cannot change, sometimes an optimist Romanticises things that he can change, things that should not be accepted as the norm.

Optimists are often criticised for their fantastic on unrealistic perception of reality. But most optimists know when they’re putting on the rose-coloured glasses. The problem arises when optimists use positive thinking to condone or make excuses for things and people that deserve to be accepted as toxic, and stayed away from.

Diehard optimists like me might use optimism to reinforce bad behaviour in themselves and others. By focussing on the few good points instead of the many bad ones, optimists tell themselves that their situation is not as bad as it seems, that they’re being too demanding, that they should be grateful for the things they have instead of demanding impossibilities that might leave them worse off than before.

But some things should not be endured. And a diehard optimist could fail to distinguish between changeable situations and those that must be put up with. And then the optimist considers the bad thing normal, and herein is the real and sometimes irrevocable departure from reality.

Could it also be a desperate need to convince ourselves that things are better than they actually are? Could it be an attempt to reassure a fragile and almost broken ego that after futile attempts to establish our own importance in the real world, things will still be alright, even if only in our heads?

And could we find healthier ways to meet these needs, so that we don’t fool ourselves into accepting an unrealistic version of the truth just because it’s our own mind that’s lying to us, not another person?

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